The Best Advice I Ever Received

Are you the kind of person who cringes when given advice?

I used to be that person. When I was 17.

Since then, I’ve learned that there comes a point in time when a bit of well-meaning advice can go a long way in making life a little bit smoother. This is especially true when dealing with the complexities of military life.

Since marrying into the military a little more than 14 months ago, I have been richly blessed to have some of the most amazing military spouses take me under their wing and do what needed to be done: gently mold me into someone who could actually pass as a legitimate milspouse.

What are some of the best resources that have helped you along your own journey? Maybe it was a friend, a mentor, a group or club. Maybe you grew up as an “Army Brat” and you received everything you needed to know a little bit at a time, along the way, while growing up. Maybe it’s even an online resource (Army Wife Network, perhaps?), a blog, or a book.

I’m more than glad to give you some of the best “sharable” resources I can recommend.

Here’s what’s on my bookshelf:

1. The Army Wife Handbook

Ah, the standard, go-to Army Wife Handbook. Sure, it’s green and looks like it just stepped out of the 1940’s, but it’s tough to beat for a basic introduction to all things Army-spouse related! At nearly 400 pages, the breadth of topics is really quite impressive, but even in all its “updated and expanded” second edition glory, don’t expect for it to cover many topics in great depth.

Still, a it’s a great foundational read for new Army spouses seeking more information about Army customs and courtesies. I will especially cherish my copy that was gifted to me by an exceptional military spouse.

2. 1001 Things to Love About Military Life

This little charmer falls squarely into a category I’d affectionately call, “educational entertainment” or “edu-tainment,” for short. This book has universal appeal for brand new military spouses, seasoned military spouses, and those who are just curious about the military lifestyle. It provides inspiring motivation and a call to focus on what’s good and positive about our unique community and lifestyle.

It also highlights practical ways to manage our lifestyle, addressing topics that range from finding your own battle buddy to creative suggestions for sending thoughtful care packages. I received my complimentary copy at one of the AWN Field Exercise events last year at Fort Riley. It’s a must-read, and I guarantee it’ll put a smile on your face.

3. Now You Tell Me!: 12 Army Wife Give the Best Advice They Never Got

This one is next in the lineup on my reading list. The main reason I was initially interested in reading this book is because one of the authors is someone I know and work with in our local spouses’ club. This book is a wonderful behind-the-curtain peek into how real Army spouses process the Army experience over an expanded career.

It is a rare luxury to hear so directly and so candidly from those who have truly “seen it all.”

So, there you have it—a good glimpse at what has supplemented my Army-spouse learning. Of course, my most favorite way to learn is through direct conversation, so I really have to acknowledge all those who have poured countless hours into my “education.” I am so lucky to have you!

What’s helped you process and progress through your own Army journey? Share with us!