You Deserve It
A week ago, I made a very special purchase. I was able to buy my very own pair of Christian Louboutin heels. I bought them for about $100 at a consignment shop (used but in new condition), and I deserve them!
A little back story: they are my DREAM shoes! I’ve always wanted a pair since I was a little girl. I figured since I could afford them, I should just use some of my earning from my string of odd jobs to buy them.
To me, red bottom heels were the very essence of confidence and power!
The heels fit like a dream and are very comfortable for a heel (considering some heels are very uncomfortable) and I feel like a princess.
Now I just need to add a few items from my “most wanted” list but they will come in time.
All of that being said: this brings me to my main (and only) point.
You deserve to treat yourself!
As military spouses we endure a lot! Whether its life, kids, partners, or anything. We deserve to have something nice.
How many times have any of us passed up something we really like and/or want so badly and refrained from obtaining it?
I have always wondered why someone of something has stopped us from wanting the nice things we want to feel special.
That’s how it was for me.
I hated that some of the people I associated with in the past made me feel bad for liking flamboyant things and luxury items. I partly wondered if it was because we were told from a young age that flash and luxury was fake and obnoxious.
Rarely (almost never) do I get name brand things from their actual store. I always shop at TJ Maxx, Goodwill, various consignment shops, or yard sales ( to name a few) to get all my items. Sometimes I get extremely lucky and find a few high end items for a super good price.
I was told that I was purposely trying to bring attention to myself like a peacock. I was even called “fake” or “stuck up” for liking high end or name brand products. At first it would hurt my feeling because for one, I didn’t like being called names for liking what I like and I didn’t think of myself as flashy, over the top, or “too much”.
We deserve love.
I was just being myself and I love myself. I know that the name calling, and harsh judgement was a way to break me down for reasons that are still unknown to me. Either way I got over it by realizing that I and great no matter what anyone says. If I’m too much, they can go find less.
One day I’ll be able to buy something from the real store for once ( haha) for now I’m ball’n on a budget.
Don’t be afraid to get the things you want that make you feel good about yourself. This lifestyle takes alot from us. Anything that that makes you as a person feel like a superstar, I fully support you getting that thing.
Whether it’s a purse, shoes, a coat or even your favorite beverage from your favorite coffee joint, just do it. You deserve it!
*For more inspiration, check out Self Image is a Journey.
