Bubble Baths and a Box of Chocolates

I come from a large family that insists on a rowdy bi-annual family reunion. One year, my brother decided to hold the reunion at his gorgeous new home. Theoretically, it sounded perfect. There was a large yard, swimming pool, outdoor kitchen, and we were meeting during a mild weather month so tent camping on the lawn. And when the day came, forty men, women, and children arrived all at once, with suitcases and cars and tents and toys.

Forty people. One home. An entire week.

Right around day 3, I opened the pantry closet and found my sister-in-law hiding inside. Desperate for a minute of peace, she’d simply stepped inside a dark food pantry and stayed there for a still undisclosed amount of time.

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Military Life This or That

have been loving the different “this-or-that” posts that have been roving around social media. You know the ones I’m referring to, right?

Do you like coffee or tea?

Mountains or beach?

Sweaters and boots, or flip flops and shorts?

As a social media manager, I use this-or-that posts to remind clients about options. And it works. People love to give you their preferences and tell you exactly what they want.

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Faces of Resilience

Resilience has been the key word for 2020. This year has brought us a pandemic, an economic crisis, an upheaval of normalcy, and so much more. Yet, through it all, we have persevered. 

As James Lane Allen once said, “adversity does not build character, it reveals it.” This year, the nation—and the world—has experienced adversity. 

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Two Different Shoes

The week before a deployment.

When I look back, I barely remember that week. By that time, we had done all the chores we needed to do to prepare.

We had our paperwork in order.

His stuff was packed.

We had our new phone plan set up…

We had done it all.

Months and months of brainstorming and planning every way possible to prepare ourselves, and we had finished.

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The Brighter Side of Deployment

Deployments are tough—there is no way to sugar coat it. Being the spouse of a National Guard member, deployments are something that I never really thought about. I always assumed that they were something that happened to other people—people who were much better equipped to handle them.

But sure enough, I was wrong.

I feel like I blinked and found myself fist deep in a tub of cookie dough, crying, because my husband was being deployed. I read countless books and articles, and I played out thousands of scenarios in my head as to what it would be like. I thought about things, like missing out on celebrating holidays and special events, and the fact that I now would have to take out the trash and take the dog out late at night (my two least favorite chores).

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